Kathryn VanEaton is a stay-at-home mother of two kids, and also a step-mom to two more.
She picks up her children from school every single day, each night she makes dinner after which her family sits down at the table to enjoy eating together.
Kathryn VanEaton is also a user of cannabis, who has gone by “Stoner Mom,” since she started a blog of the exact same name.
“When mommy blogging became big, this was like what, early 2000s? It was amazing because moms could be like, ‘Oh, I’m a mom and I do this.’ Or, ‘Oh, I’m a mom and I do that}.’ There’s all these different niches that they could get into in the context of being a true mother,” VanEaton says.
VanEaton had been blogging for 12 years before the onset of Stoner Mom in 2014. She was a photographer that time, who had gotten bored with that routine. At that stage, she thought, she was in a distinctive position to blog not only about her life being a mom, but as well as to blog about being a legal user of marijuana.
“I would get high with my girlfriend on girls’ night in, and we’d just talk about how amusing it was that we were smoking marijuana in secret. We’re the same moms – we’re home, we’re picking up our children from school, and sleeping with our kids, or not getting any sleep,” she says. “People didn’t actually know that the mom at the supermarket with the enormous grocery bill is also a pothead.”
VanEaton says she uses marijuana for both medical and recreational reasons, either when the youngsters, between the ages of 5 and 10, are out of the house or after they go to sleep. If it’s not being used, the marijuana is kept in a secured room in the basement, or inside of bags safeguarded with a combination lock.
She created the blog to eliminate the stigma for moms like her who use cannabis.
“Cannabis users have to be grownups, clearly, but adults are quite often parents,” VanEaton says. “If there’s even the inkling that you might be misunderstood as a mother, persecuted as a mom, have your kids taken away, God forbid, or even merely have your community judge you as a terrible mom, those are all deal breakers for mothers. There’s actually no choice. A responsible mother in a legal state can’t come out. It looks bad on her as a mother.”
The pages on her blog offer something for any user. Some of the videos are titled “How to Clean a Bong,” “The Easiest Way to Roll a Joint,” “How I Use Cannabis for Depression,” “Get Ready With Me! Stoned,” and “Dabbing for Beginners.”
She also posts “Stoner Sesh” videos, which reveal her smoking and give audiences “a friend to get high with” she says. There also reviews of strains of marijuana, or edibles.
“You have a story. It’s intriguing. And It’s fascinating to other parents. Simply because you don’t have a mainstream story doesn’t mean you don’t have one,” she says. “For individuals who don’t agree, I would say look away.”
VanEaton says there was never a concern about telling close friends or family members about being a mother who uses marijuana.
Her blog has become her business. She also runs a YouTube channel and a podcast.